🤔 QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER
- Who in my life actively supports my goals, and how can I strengthen those connections?
- Are there people in my circle who feel left out or disconnected because of my changes? How can I address that?
GIVE IT A GO
Use these prompts to fuel your journaling or dive deeper into how your environment is shaping your journey.
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🏆 YOUR CHALLENGE THIS WEEK
Identify one aspect of your environment or a relationship that feels out of sync with your goals. Tackle it with a small, intentional change. Maybe it’s having an open conversation with someone, or setting boundaries for your time. Reflect at the end of the week and celebrate the impact of even the smallest adjustments.
KEEP IN MIND
Change doesn’t happen in isolation—it’s shaped by the spaces and people around you. Reply and tell me about your experience—your wins, struggles, or questions. I might feature your story (anonymously, of course) in an upcoming post.
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✅ BEAN THERE, LEARNED THAT.
On last weeks newsletter I asked you to take a small step forward: a kind word, a supportive action, or even a little self-compassion. I asked you to tell me how it went or how I could help.
Here's how it went:
- "Missing workouts used to leave me feeling like I’d failed, but this week I reminded myself it’s okay to take a break when I need it. Honestly, letting go of that guilt felt like a weight off my shoulders."
- "Meal prep isn’t normally my jam, but this week I decided to help my husband get it done. It was a small thing, but seeing how much it helped made it totally worth it."
❔SPILL THE BEANS: QUESTION OF THE WEEK
How do I get my brother to change his eating habits without pissing him off?
Short answer: you don’t. I know that’s not the answer you wanted, but hear me out.
I get it. You love your brother, and you want the best for him. You see where things could be better, and it’s frustrating to feel like he’s not making the choices you think would help. That desire to step in and fix things? It’s coming from a good place. But here’s the thing: you can’t make someone change. Believe me, if nagging worked, there wouldn’t be a single unwashed dish or unmade bed on this planet.
For a person to truly change, it has to come from within. They have to feel like it’s their decision—something they chose, something they control. The second you start nudging, pushing, or (let’s be honest) outright shoving, it backfires. Even if you’re coming from the purest place of love, it can lead to resentment. And suddenly, instead of being the loving sibling who wants to help, you’re the annoying one who won’t let it go.
The truth is, we don’t get to decide what’s right for someone else. Even if you could convince him to change, it would rob him of the pride and growth that come from making that decision for himself. Imagine you’re watching a kid figure out how to tie their shoes. You could do it for them, but they’d never feel that “I did it!” moment. That’s what change is like—it has to be owned to really stick.
So, what can you do? You can inspire him. You can educate—maybe casually share a recipe you tried or a small win you had. And most importantly, you can just be there. Let him know you’re in his corner when and if he’s ready to make changes.
I know it’s hard to watch someone you love struggle. But trying to force change won’t work. So love him where he’s at. Cheer him on when he’s ready. 😉
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Want to join me at an upcoming Working with Larger Bodies Seminar?
The next one is in Colorado!
CrossFit Elm Turnberry
12433 E 104th PL #103
Commerce City, CO 80022
Saturday, February 15, 2025
9:00 am to 5:00 pm
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☕ FRESHLY BREWED: WHAT I'M READING OR WATCHING
I just finished listening to this episode of The 10,000 Steps Myth. This isn’t just about steps; it’s about rethinking how we measure progress and take care of our bodies. It was an interesting listen. Plus, it’s a good reminder that movement is about quality, not just quantity.
Lastly, I am working on an article for the Morning Chalk Up! It’s all about the other side of our environments—the spaces we live in and how they impact our transformation journeys. You know, the cluttered countertops, the “I’ll deal with it later” corners, all those little things that can either help or hold us back.
In the article, I share a ritual I do every January to hit reset and create a space that feels supportive, not stressful. And because I love you all, I’m including a link where you can tweak it to make it work for your own home.
Keep an eye out for it—I’ll share more details next week.
Until then, take care
Your friend, 💖
