Ep. 14 - the Truth About Burnout (And Why I Ghosted You for a Month)

What is emotional burnout?

MAY 09, 2025 • ISSUE 14

The Truth About Burnout (And Why I Ghosted the Newsletter for One Month)

How goes it, Reader?

Sorry for missing the last newsletter. I know some of you noticed, and I just want to say I missed you too. The truth is, I had my head down trying to finish the bones of a book. I’ll get into that a bit further down, but when I lock in, I tend to hyperfocus. It’s how I’m wired. I needed the space to push through and get it done, and this was no exception.

Also, big news from the north: Mom and Dad finally made it back to Minnesota for the season just last night. They absolutely cannot handle the winters here. Poor souls. No, they cannot do the hard things. And yes, I say that lovingly, while shaking my head and laughing.

I also pulled myself out of a deficit for almost two weeks because things just stopped moving. That’s the honest part of this journey. Sometimes your body needs a pause before it can keep going. It’s not failure. It’s feedback. The body gets burned out too. And that’s exactly where we’re starting this week.

In this weeks newsletter:

  • Burnout isn’t failure it’s a flare. I hit pause on the deficit, hit publish on a journal, and found one habit worth reclaiming.
  • Dinner for breakfast? Still the move. Lamb at sunrise and zero tolerance for food rules.
  • Burnout Bites, book bombs, and backlogged brilliance. New recipe, surprise guests in Forged by Grace, and five fiery reads in case you’ve bean behind.

Stuck in Emotional Burnout? Welcome to the Bermuda Triangle

I call it the Bermuda Triangle; where your brain, your heart, and your body stop syncing. One minute you’re killing it. The next, you’re wondering how brushing your teeth became a chore.

Now that you've read that...

🤔 QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER

  1. Where in your life have you felt "off" lately?
  2. What habits or routines have fallen away, and what might that be pointing to?
  3. What part of you feels the most tired: your body, your spirit, or your mind?

GIVE IT A GO

Consider these questions to kickstart journaling this week or explore your thoughts more intentionally

🏆 YOUR CHALLENGE THIS WEEK

Reclaim one small habit that burnout stole. Not the biggest. Not the hardest. Just one. Brush your teeth while playing your favorite song. Go for a walk without your to-do list. Make the bed. Do it not to fix yourself, but to find yourself.

KEEP IN MIND

This journal and reflection isn’t a pep talk. It’s a map back to yourself.
And if you’ve been floating for a while… it’s okay. We’ve got space for you here.

Hit reply and share your wins or ask me a question - I might feature it here, but don't worry, your name stays between us.


BEAN BITES (TAKEAWAYS)

This week:

  • Burnout isn’t laziness; it’s depletion.
  • You don’t need a full tank to take the first step.
  • The way back is always through grace, not guilt.
  • Emotional fog isn’t a permanent forecast.

❓SPILL THE BEANS: QUESTION(S) OF THE WEEK

"Why do you make dinner for breakfast?"

For me, making dinner for breakfast is about starting the day the best way I can. Fueled. Ready. It helps me avoid the spiral of burnout before it begins. I get a lot of laughs about it, but it works. There’s this weird unspoken rule that breakfast has to be eggs or oatmeal. But why not broiled lamb? Why not what your body actually needs?

I want the first thing I eat to serve me, to ground me, and to prepare me. And right now, I’m working with lower numbers, so every choice counts. I need the biggest bang for the buck. High protein. Lots of veggies. Foods that fill me up and make good use of the "spend".

I don’t want food rules telling me how that’s supposed to look. Meal rules create a feeling of stuck. And why feel stuck when the goal is to move forward? Who said you can't have a big steak for breakfast? Come to my house this weekend, we'll have steak.


🫘 COOL BEANS - RECIPE DROP: BURNOUT BITES

This week, try these Burnout Bites. No bake, naturally sweetened, and packed with fiber and protein. They’re quick, easy, and they travel well. More importantly, they help keep your blood sugar stable and your energy even, which is huge when you’re trying to prevent burnout. A steady body helps keep your mind and emotions steady too.

Breakfast, snack, or emotional support treat; your call (grin).

Burnout Bites

1 cup old fashioned rolled oats or quick oats

½ cup dried blueberries (dried cranberries is also really good)

1.5 tbsp. chia seeds

¾ cup almond butter

2 tbsp. pure maple syrup (or SF kind)

¼ tsp. cinnamon

¼ tsp. nutmeg

Instructions:

  • In a large bowl, stir together all ingredients until well combined. Roll into a dozen or so balls. Store in an airtight container in the fridge.

☕ FRESHLY BREWED: WHAT I'M READING, WATCHING, OR THINGS THAT MADE ME SMILE THESE LAST TWO WEEKS

  • Forged by Grace is officially in the editing phase. This is why I had to step back for just a tiny bit of time. I needed to give it everything I had. Writing it broke me open in the best way. It’s not just faith; it’s full of fire, healing, and some surprise voices you’ll recognize. Several leaders in the space showed up with words and they're in there too. I can’t wait for you to read it. I'm hoping for a late summer release!
  • Something I may have watched a couple times and laughed a bit too hard: Watch it here

🫘 BEAN THERE, MISSED THAT.

Here’s a handful of recent journal entries you might’ve missed:


That's a wrap this time. You don’t need to be on fire to come back. Smoldering is enough. We start where we are. We return when we’re ready. Until then, take care. Lots of love.

Your friend, 💖

Athena Perez

@athenamariebt

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